Thoughts from Olinka
How do you self care?
It can be so easy to go through the day and life, and
just be on autopilot. I think most of us can agree that we’ve been there.
I know I have! Ever since I became a mom I reaffirmed my
belief that self-care is CRUCIAL. I already knew this as a therapist and was
actually good at implementing it. However, when I became a mom I realized
self-care was close to impossible sometimes and that I could actually run on
empty. Yes, that’s right! I could push through and keep on. That is, until I
The thing is, we can all run on empty. But you need to
ask yourself: For how long? What will the consequences be? Is it worth it?
These answers vary by person. We all need to take a look
and be honest about it.
I can run on empty for a couple weeks (I’ll be beyond exhausted
in the process and probably won’t make the healthiest choices when it comes to
eating and working out) and then BAM we have a problem. Because I’m irritable,
exhausted, on autopilot and just straight up feeling crappy. So with time,
insight and work, I have learned to love myself enough to avoid that. To me,
pushing myself through is just not worth it. There are no benefits for me or
those I love to be pouring from an empty cup all the time.
I love the analogy of putting my oxygen mask on first, like
on an airplane. I mean the first time I heard it I though it was the most
selfish thing ever!! “How dare you put your mask on before putting one on a
child?” However, now as a brand new 30 year old, therapist and mother, I
completely agree with this and try to do it myself.
There is no way I can be an effective ANYTHING for anyone
if I’m not meeting my own needs.
I need to be fueled correctly, drink enough water, give
myself breaks, feed my soul and get enough sleep. I also need to say no when I
can’t help others and make sure I’m paying attention to my body and spirit.
Because if my needs aren’t met, I will be run down and eventually depleted.
This is may not be easy but it’s imperative. So MAKE the
time to meet your needs. You won’t find the time, you have to MAKE it. If not,
the price for not doing it can be quite expensive.
Stress is killing us. Literally! So let’s practice some
self love and take care of ourselves .
Some ways that I self-care include, but not limited to:
1) Saying no when I need to.
2) Having time alone to recharge.
3) Exercise! Move, move, move.
4) Using my voice and talking to my loved ones about how
6) Engaging in an
activity that gives me joy.
8) Cooking in order for me to eat right.
9) Disconnecting from social media and my phone.
10) Engaging in a mindfulness exercise and progressive
relaxation. (YouTube videos)